I'm glad you've decided to be civil with each other. Remember, however, that lawyers speak divorce and you speak marriage. If she wants to speak marriage fine, if she wants to talk about divorce terms make sure she has your lawyer's number and leave it at that.
Perhaps you and the kids could take some time away together to work through some of their issues. She's leaving the family but you need to stick together as a unit and some together time can help.
I hope you're doing ok and taking the time to let off steam in appropriate ways.
