I have say to that when I first read about detachment, about 6 weeks ago, I was like huh? But everything I read more or less said the same thing about it, so it must have some level of truth to it, is what I was thinking.
I think sometimes I try to analise things a little to much, then not quite seeing things the way they are. I have not felt any anger towards the OM, except for the first day when I found out, but that was kept to myself. So I have looked at that & tryed to figure out why. I have also waited for it to go pop... & then the anger, but none has arrived. I can only say that I must have detached myself from that situation quite early, but did not realise it.
As regards talking to my W about the D, which three days ago, she wanted to talk to me about, but has not yet got back to me. In the early days I would have called her just as an excuse to talk to her. I also know that I would have found it almost impossible to not sound negative about it too. Right now I have no doubt that I could quite happily say, sure lets talk about your choice. Of course i'm no doormat & I would try to stall & buy time where I could. But I could quite happily go along with it too, knowing that it's not my choice to do so.
Non of this will stop me with my life, it may side track me here & there. It may be my natural stubbeness, or it maybe detachment, but I know it will not have an effect on my plans for me.
