Just typed out such a nice post, only to pull a Nomo & lose it all.
I'll try & recreate it & then push submit immed. next time.
Sorry to hear about Ruby, you handled it well w/ D, & we all know it's relative when it comes to loss. A loss is a loss is a loss, no?
I'll get right to it since I've forgotten the small talk now that I added to prior post.
Going Dim is once again not for the faint of heart (none of this is, really). It looks like it's having an effect & your H doesn't seem to be the type to show you outwardly if you're right on or not. There is almost always a panic when I've done the same & it has to be altered by sitch. You're not being hostile, or dropping your PMA (as shown by the oops incident at the gym), just changing things a bit, so it's more of an untra-light really. I was told years ago by a therapist friend, that negative actions require energy, just as people say/do things in anger, etc., and your H filing would require a push of some sort. You're not giving him any aminition, just stepping back, so it's my guess that it's different & will get a different response in time. He's a toughy, so might take a while. If you really do feel in danger of going in the wrong direction, then by all means change course. I just don't see that & think you're proceeding well.
