I asked my H to find temporary shelter two weeks ago b.c. his anger was out of control and scaring me. I wanted to bring it out into the open. I told him to get counseling, and that he couldn't come back until he did. He told me to find a therapist and he would go. But in therapy, he said we'd never had anything good in our relationship, that he almost didn't come, and that he was moving from his parent's into an apartment. I love him, and I don't know what to do now that he's decided to punish me. He can be controlling, and I want to set limits, I want him to respect me, and I can't pretend that this wouldn't have happened at some point, but what do I do now? Do I need to get separate thereapy or go to therapy with him, even if it's more of the same? I am alone, with no family nearby, my dreams in shambles, and now a husband that rather than apologize for his behavior, is trying to punish me. What do I do? It is breaking my heart.
