Glad to hear you had a great vacation. It is still early in your sitch, so I wouldn't worry about things too much. I sense that maybe you pushed too hard too early with the gifts and stuff (I maybe wrong, it is just my gut feeling).
I know it is hard to work out what to do in each sitch, whether it is worse to detach or go dark, or still be there. But from everything I have read, detaching and going dark, and letting go of your W normally brings a higher success rate than being there.
Like I keep saying, they will never miss what they have until it is gone.
As far as the dating goes, I see no harm in it. As long as you approach it the right way. But in the end, who knows, maybe there is a better life waiting there for us.
Like I said, I will still DB and work to get my W back, but I cant just sit around and mope whilst I am doing this. I had an excellent night last night, and it helped my PMA enormously.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
