That is interesting to me that you put your foot down. I sort of used mental warfare on mine. He had been talking about leaving for five months and did nothing. He would threaten it when I asked too many questions. One day I started putting his things together for him. Then stopped because I told him if he wanted to leave he should do it himself. He told me, no go ahead and pack for me.
Recently he claimed to have tried to leave but I wouldn't "let" him. I told him no, you just didn't go. (I didn't want to throw him out because it is one of his childhood issues.)
So last Monday he came early in the morning to say he was leaving. Its not like he has been sleeping here anyway. Then he didn't do anything about it. So I texted him asking when he was leaving. He got mad and asked me why I was asking. Then about three days later he took some work clothes with him. He comes and gets things to wear. Occasionally brings stuff back. But he no longer gets ready here. Which really bothered me today. He bought a new tooth brush and shaver and some other stuff for where ever it is he stays. ALl that stuff including his deododrant is still here. Remember he says he is "floating." Quite possible since he used to do that as a teen. At anyrate. He shaved here today?????? After I cleaned the bathroom !!!!!!!!!!!!!UGH.
He asked his sister today what I say about him. She said NOTHING. She told me he got real quiet. She knows what is going on, but said she is not telling him a word. She has been trying to get me to do more stuff to get his attention. She thinks I have been too nice and that its not working. She wants me to GAL. I would but I dont have a car right now and its hard to get a sitter for four kids. She does not want me to always be here when he comes around. Her points are valid and he does question stuff I do. He even looks to see what I do online while he is here.
I am going to try really hard to disappear this week. We will see what happens.
I know what you mean about the macho stuff. My H is half Spanish.
