Wow, 2L..read your story..you and your h have been to h*** and back..you have both endured so much, and yet you were able to overcome it..was it hard...sure sounds like it..but worth it..no doubt..I too have learned the patience thing..when all I want to do is call h and beg him to just come home and lets go from there..boy do i know that would not be a wise thing to do..and I have had a fear the past 3months that him leaving he would forget em, forget the m, well little things have been happening..he called me to come over for pizza last week...a MAJOR breahthrough for him..so I will continue to wait..Thanks again for you encouragement..everyone needs that every once and awhile Sue