Things have been pretty quite over the last several days, hence my absence from the board.
My W has not brought up selling the house, divorce or anything personal with me. I have been flying well under the radar.
W went out afterwork on Friday night and did not come home.
On Sat afternoon, I took DD to the mall (got a call from W asking whether she could meet at mall and take DD for a few hours before she had to got out). She was supposed to look after DD on Sat night (my night) but decided to make plans and asked whether I could organise a babysitter (sure no probs).
She picked up DD at around 2pm with her best friend, I then met up with my sister for yum cha. I asked W if she could bring DD home at 5pm as I had to be away in time to drop DD off and go to my function.
She rocks back at 5:30pm (always makes me late when I have to go out), no probs. She tells me that she has organised lunch with the girls for Sunday and a tupperware party at our house in the evening (I wanted to relax before work, 10pm start on Sun), no probs.
Anyway's, I have been continuing my PMA and have avoided any convo's with W for a few weeks, and things have slowed down heaps. I do not let anything she does get to me, no matter how inconsiderate it may be.
Also, on the matter of "dating others", I have decided to give it a go. Last night I had a great night with a wonderful lady (she has been asking me out to dinner for a while), great meal and great conversation. It was nice to be able to go out with someone other than my friends, and she is fully aware of my sitch.
My priorities are still with saving my M, but at the moment, there are no indications that this will happen in the near future. I know there will be people out there that will cringe at thinking about dating others, but I really don't think this is a bad thing.
I felt my confidence coming back last night, something I have not felt in a long time. It was a great escapism from my current turmoil.
I hope all of you are doing better in your sitches, and are having a good weekend.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
