As one on the other side of the divorce chasm, it ain't that bad. Really. It's like a loose nut has been foisted off on the world, (of New Zealand in my case) and out of my home and head.
What a relief, really. What a relief. The lying and the WTFs and all of that is gone! Others like my family and friends are still reeling, but I'm good.
It's a blessing really. I out waited the wasband for months, finally got a settlement that I could live with and he couldn't, and it's great!
My wasband, when he walked, said that he had never loved me and blah blah blah.
I actually have chosen to believe him. Out of respect for his truth, and also because it allows me to see a better future in front of me. I mean, who needs that, really? No one that I've ever met!
So, it's okay whatever you believe. Just believe it with all of your heart, feel confident in it, and allow it to set you free. The truth WILL set you free.
It is a big relief to finally reclaim control over my life. I had no clear direction for a very long time.
The biggest perk is that I no longer feel like a victim. H no longer has that power over me. And, no, it doesn't really matter anymore if H ever loved me or not. He doesn't love me now and I don't love the man he is now.
Ha....back to the t-shirt thing.....mine said voulez-vous couchez avec moi ce soir......yikes. it was along time ago.....oh raises hand again.....had another one that said / a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle....sorry inmp
Last edited by a new 2moro; 06/16/0711:24 PM.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Val, Your posts are filled with such a new energy. I am happy to hear that you are finally freeing yourself from the misery that your H has been putting you through.
Faith or fear... that does make sense.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
