By "La-la land," I mean she has no visceral response to such a serious subject at hand -- pending divorce, and the gutwrenching breakup of our family, and her ostracization from her own family.
She acts like she's picking out colors for the kitchen drapes.
She's just lost. Lost.
Choc.
Okay, I get what you're saying. Major denial. "If I act like this isn't happening, then it's NOT happening."
I agree that researching the "adultery = NO alimony" route is a good idea. And be sure and tell her about that if it turns out you will not owe her alimony. That should be a huge tub of cold water in the face.
Did you say at one point that she could go live with her parents (or was that someone else). She can live with her parents and OM lives with HIS parents-- it will be just like being in high school again. Her behavior is very adolescent.
She's definitely out of touch with reality. I predict that once she get the reality of it, if you're really through with this M, you're going to have to throw her out.
Her behavior is very adolescent. 