Val, I hear waht you're saying and I struggle with it myself. Am i making excuses for my H by saing he's sick or is he a lost cause. I struggle with that every day. So, I am pursuing the route of trying to figure out if something is psychologically wrong with him to give this one last shot. If not and really is a lost cause (God forbid), i will walk away. It's a fine line and a constant battle in my head. But as long as H is willing to pursue help, I cannot walk away.
As for you, I am glad you are reaching a new stage in your own personal process. Looks like you're in some sort of acceptance stage and you're letting go of a lot.
You are an amazing woman. Just amazing. And there is a man out there who will see that and scoop you up the first minute he can (if, of course, that's what you want). And if that's not waht you want, then you will go on about your merry way finding ways to live a happy peaceful life.
You rock, girlie!
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
