Ali as promised here is InPain's thread ... she's in a similar position to you except her H says he didn't have an affair, but she's still not 100% sure about that ... and then she got this bomb, anyway... I'll let you read, I hope it helps in some way

In Pain's Thread


Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05
Seperated Sept/Oct 05
Oct 06 - H recomitted
July 11 - I am now a WAW.