Lose the attitude. You asked a question that had NO background to it and assumed people would know what in the hell you were talking about...THEN you have the audacity to get snotty with people who endeavor to help you, but have to ask a question(s) to clarify?! If you want to be treated with respect around here you have to give it as well...otherwise, take a hike!
No one is here to "go at it" - we are ALL hurting and I know it's a real crappy place to be right now but give the rest of the world a break will ya? As far as being disrespectful, you might want to take a look at some of your remarks before you point fingers.
We aren't the reason you are here but the people on these boards are awesome and can REALLY help you if you would just back off. However, if you don't lose the attitude you will find the majority of them won't even bother to answer you - as you might have already noticed
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Granted and i truely send my apologies. honestly i really wasnt angry until i recieved the attitude first. again i apologised then if i came off sounding angry.
and as for the comments you made about the people in these chats i completely agree.... they are great and very supportive.
thank you for the CONSTRUCTIVE criticism and in the future i will try to watch what and how i say things.
1st. california 2. no crimes 3. she filed for the D in march 4. man. 5. provider although she makes the same as me. alot. 6. when does the 6 months i have to wait until the D is finalized.
anything else....... um scorpio,250 lbs, gym rat. what else is there.
What the heck that was about, was the fact that your subject line stated "I need legal questions answered." I'll reiterate. You need a lawyer then.
your HnA. ok. I get that. maybe this is your first time posting on a BB, maybe you dont communicate via writing. so ill cut you some slack and give a communication lesson.
No one here is your secretary, nor your previously retained legal counsel, for you to be making demands from. If you want an opinion on something, then ask for one. If you NEED something be prepared to pay for it.
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oh thank you for your your insight and the childish remark. you see i was only trying to be a little funny. sorry if it didnt come off that way.
oh yeah im sorry if i was in the senior citizen chat room my apologies.
wait... she left you twice? and they say you cant teach an old dog new tricks.
LOL. funny. seems the dog is up to the same old tricks to me. The way you communicate short and terse does come off commandeering, and the ladies here will call it how they see it. You should use their input and be grateful for it. Your humor needs work as well. Like your questions, it requires too much mind reading currently.
I did tell adviceneeded that I understand dry sarcastic false apologies. I also said I dont recommend them, and Ill add to that, especially if you want positive reactions from any human who is highly emotional and fused. You can feed them to me, and we will both have a good laugh. Obviously Nop will feed your verbal crap right back at you, so take off the gloves or we will continue to tweak your nose. Your size wouldnt do you any good in real life, your to heavy to be able to catch me when I run in terror from the scorpion king, on the internet it just makes us both look silly. ....Lord knows I do love to look silly though.....
You answered my questions, so Ill answer some of yours to the best of my ability. I am not a lawyer, my understanding of the law consists of the 'see dick run' level.
1. California. She filed in Cali, so the soonest the D will be final is the day after 6 months from when she filed, as previously stated, IF everything is done correctly. Filing for D in and of itself means nothing. There are several more hoops that need to be jumped thru. one of the first would be 1.have you been served yet? There is a timeline on your being served, and there is a (supposed) timeline on your replying to being served. Financials (supposedly) have to be declared. Etc,etc. IF you have not been served, the filing in and of itself means nothing. legally speaking. damocles sword, ignore it. There are more pertinent threats. emotionally and maritally it means a lot.
2.no crimes in many states adultery is a crime, and changes the 'fault' coniderably. There was a guy in Tx recently who came home to a cheating wife, wherupon she did the brilliant act of jumping up and shouting rape. The H shot the guy and when it came out that it was in fact an A and not rape, she went to prison for causing homicide. in all states removing money from an account that is not in your name is a crime. hypothetically speaking if you recently lived in another state but falsely claim residency on the dissolution papers, that would be a crime. being served by your wife would also invalidate the timeline. It must be done by someone else. Failure to adhere to any of these shows a lack of legal sincerity, and just shows petulance IMO. The law is a game, quite likely just a part of the game you W is playing and testing you with. The best way to win, is to know the real rules, and walk around the hoops, instead of wasting your energy jumping thru them. Winning is a very relative term.
3. she filed for the D in march So the soonest you will be D is Sep. Is she jumping thru the hoops and getn'rdun, or is it just another negative push trying to force you to change?
5. provider although she makes the same as me. alot.
If this means what I think it means, (roughly- whats yours is her's and whats her's, is her's) that doesnt make you a provider, it makes you a chump. I say that with no malice. Your not the first to get suckered into wanting to take care of his woman. They dont need our money to be happy though, so unless you want a hooker, keep your money for yourself. Give em what they really need. The important thing is, she is not a dependant, so if you dont know her, and dont know her likely actions in regards to your finances, I again reiterate, you need a lawyer.If you have been the provider to a non dependant, IMO you should do something to change that fact legally, or you may find yourself continuing to give your life energy to a non dependant. Doing nothing in the fast moving river of life is a high risk strategy. Unless your risk is managed your just a gambler who will end up busted. Its time to be a dispassionate business man. Right now you are in the rapids, so Get your oar in the water and paddle for the clear before you end up on the rocks. In the future, dont give your lifeenergy to a nondependant, and if a nondepandant does not have the sense to appreciate your gifts, stop giving them gifts immediately.
6. when does the 6 months i have to wait until the D is finalized. Wait for what?
Assuming your D is finalized in Sep, What happens for you ?
She doesnt have to do anything at this point, and the D will never be finalized. She may be waiting for the 8 year time period on your M to D so she can collect lifetime alimony. [shrug] who knows so many other things you havent specified.
If you want the D done right, do it yourself. Go down to the courthouse where she filed, get the petition number, they will give you a copy and ask them questions about WHAT IS. Do not ask them questions about What should I, what can I, How do I, etc, or they will just cut you off, and direct you to a lawyer. Many lawyers will not tell you WHAT IS, they will tell you what you *should* do, to stay on the treadmill. Unless you enjoyed readin Jurisprudence, get a lawyer. If its 'alot', get 2 or three. They are just counselors and appointed agents at best. They can only act on your behalf, with what they know. Next time get a lawyer prior to entering a corporate partnership.
If she is not following thru on the D steps in a timely fashion, or filling out the required paperwork, the D wont happen. If she is- the D will happen, you do not *have* to do anything at all.
If your countdown is ticking, What are you going to do with your remaining 4 months?
