Bombs keep dropping - not meant to be??

[Jen_Jam]

OMG IP I read this and felt sick - I think if I had ever read a letter like that I would have thrown up.

Then I felt anger towards your H - I just want to come round there and smack one right in the middle of his stupid constipated face. The a few well aimed kicks and once he's down I'd stamp on his head. He is avoiding all questions about this and basically TELLING you the reason he won't answer questions is cos YOU can't handle it. This guy is putting all the M problems on YOUR shoulders. What a complete ****.

But - this anger isn't useful, so onwards......he expects you to go off on one, crying etc on this - by your posts it seems you're taking this VERY well, I can see you've changed, and if I can see it through a PC, having never met you, then your H can see it too. I favour a boundary setting here - that you cannot move forward with your M until the subject of this lette has been resolved. It's still up to H to step up to the mark, he is trying to make you feel guilty all the time - refuse to accept this. There is nothing wrong with stating you are angry, confused and hurt by this letter, and you would like to discusss it openly and honestly with H, and if he isn't ready to then you'll wait. if he then statrs to accuse you of things like gettign over-emotional tell him you'll do your best not to, but in any case is that a good reason to avoid the talk? I mena, you're offering to wait until he's ready ARGH!!!

Sorry Ip, I'm not much help right now, i just feel SO MUCH ANGER towards your H right now, I'll try and clam down.