Hi KIKI I apologize for my poor english, I was reading some of your posts and I want to say you that i think we are in this kind of forums cause we want to be best humans, I think a WAS/WAW or a LBS are equal guilty. I am a LBS too and I am trying of have my R back but I know that I have my part of responsability in her bad feeling. Please be patiente.
OF, I hope she's doing OK because last I spoke with her via email was about a month ago and since then she hasn't responded. I sent her an email a few days ago and again no response.
Me: 32|W: 34|D: 3yo 1st bomb: Feb 2006 (left one day, came back a week later) 2nd bomb: Aug 2006 (moved out, ILYBNILWY) 3rd bomb: Apr 2007 (filed for divorce) 4th bomb: <her finger on the launch button>
I hope she's OK too . A little worried about the silence, but maybe she's out "creating a new life for herself" (or at least doing a little GALing) and is more focused on that.
OF, no word from kiki at all. I emailed her about a month ago and never got a reply. I hope she's OK.
Me: 32|W: 34|D: 3yo 1st bomb: Feb 2006 (left one day, came back a week later) 2nd bomb: Aug 2006 (moved out, ILYBNILWY) 3rd bomb: Apr 2007 (filed for divorce) 4th bomb: <her finger on the launch button>
hello everyone- sorry it's been so long since i last posted, i just really needed to get away from the boards and focus on my life for a little while. got an e-mail from SR about his current situation and decided to come back and see what's been going on.
my H and I are currently piecing or marriage back together, and for the first time in a very long time, i have hope. we are taking it one day at a time, and after two years of on and off separation, it has been hard. one thing i've learned throughout this process is what it truly means to love someone. it means taking it on the chin sometimes. it means biting your tongue. it means praying a lot. it means looking at the other person, with all of their flaws, and recognizing the same imperfections within yourself.
i read somewhere that people don't just quit good marriages. for those of you in limbo, even if it's been for a long time already, if you are not divorced, the game is definately not over. there is a reason you are both still in. it's just up to both of you to figure out what it is.
if you've not read the 5LL book, do it now, and at the first sign of hope from your spouse, have them read it if they will. it changed a lot for my H and i.
for those of you folks that have been on for a while and helped me when i was active on these boards, i sincerely hope you are well. drop me a line and let me know how you are if you are still lurking about. i'll be checking in until we can get SR's situation to a good place...:)
It is so nice to hear from you. I have wondered what became of you and worried about your well-being. It sounds like you've been through the valley and are coming out the other side.
I'm glad to hear you have hope and I pray that you and your H will be able to make good progress. I hope at some point you will share more details of what has transpired in your sitch for the benefit of others who may find themselves traveling the same road at some point.
I can appreciate the need to get away from all the pain, hurt, and hopelessness that's poured out in the various threads here. However, I hope your next break isn't quite as long and that, ultimately, yours will be a story of hope and reconciliation that offers encouragement to others.
. A little worried about the silence, but maybe she's out "creating a new life for herself" (or at least doing a little GALing) and is more focused on that.