LAST MINUTE?

[RMG77739]

That is the story and I apologize for its length. In thinking it over I have come up with a few scenarios that might be at play here:

1. My W finally signed and the papers merely await the judge (still delayed somehow?) and she contacted me for “closure”
2. She is feeling guilty and maybe has told her lawyer she wants to think some more
3. She is realizing that her new love is a total sham and a dead end and is testing the waters with me to see how I’d react.
4. She is strangely jealous of my new social life even though she does not want our M restored.

I DON’T KNOW! Any thoughts? It just seems strange that any W who spent so much time rejecting me and pushing me away would not have just pushed this through a while ago and cared not at all what I was doing or if I was seeing anyone new…

Help! Thanks!
Mjp95

mjp95,

Here is the way I would play the game. First, be clear about JN. I would say something like

JN is a fun, smart gal but I do not see any long term potential here; at this point, I do not want to date anyone exclusively. I just want to have fun.

The point to emphasize is you are surveying all your options.

Next, when you have contact with her be sure to show interest in her life, what is going on, her work, her hobbies, etc. Ask general questions! No R, M or OM questions. Do not attempt to figure out what is really going on "under the hood" with her. If you do, it will drive you crazy. Do NOT even consider your relationship, the future or do ANY pressing. Let it flow. She WILL come to you.

I hope and pray it all works outs out for you.

RMG