Help! Wife says marriage is beyond repair

[BeingMe]

Hi BM07! It's good that you spoke to a DB coach ... they are awesome. I wish I could've afforded one when I was going through the muck. Oh well!

IMO, the thing is NOT to fight for your W's love, or for your M. It seems counter-productive, but it's the best thing for you. The 'trick' is to concentrate on yourself. Being the best you, and your best advocate (along with any children you may have). Give your W space to figure out what she wants, and yourself space to gain control of yourself, figure out what you want out of life, and re-connect with your true, core self. Be upbeat if you're around her, don't talk about your R if you can help it. Just work on finding calm, peace, and a positive attitude about the future, with or without your W.

Sometimes, the WAS comes back, because they see the person they initially fell in love with, or they don't, but the LBS is okay because they worked on being so.

Take care .... thinking of ya!