yeah - obviously one of my LL's is WoA - I'd tell him he looked good on the off chance that he might tell me back
That's the trap right? We think if we apply our LL to our S they'll respond the same way we do. You'd tell him he looked good and probably didn't even hear you cuz that wasn't his LL.
The fact that he didn't bother to notice the things that made you feel loved, is just selfishness. That's how I messed up! I did all the stuff EXCEPT sitting and talking to my W and spending real quality time with her. THAT was the most uncomfortable thing for me to do, so I never did it. It might be really uncomfortable for your H to say those things. And if he'd pull his head out of his ass he'd give it a shot and realize that THAT action, especially as uncomfortable as it is for him, would make you feel really loved!
It took a kick to the gut to help me pull my head out of my ass, hopefully your H gets the kick one of these days. Selfishness, if unchecked will continue and he'll just keep doing the same thing over and over...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
