Strange, think about the Dr book, if you read it...You dont fall out of love with someone. Anger is a good emotion to have..but the fallback is that it can cloud rational and emotional thought.
Sorry to gender-bash here...women are emotionally driven while men are logic driven..anger plays a huge role in the Ws behavior. Ask any woman what anger can do. Not to mention the fact that anger the foremost expressor of hurt, pain, and control.
I know that its hard to rationalize her not feeling pain because she wanted out...but there was a reason why and she feels hurt and resentment toward you because of it. But, don't you think if she dealt with the issues the way you have dealt with them, you both would ride off into the sunset together? But, the hurt and anger is so great within her that she probably is using the outlets she knows can filter her pain, or so she thinks...
Im not saying that this is what is happening, i only say it because my W did the same thing until she broke down to me and admitted this....long after the A took place and ended...
"I want to hate you for what I did!"
So you see, this was very powerful and detrimental on my end. I realized she had a lot more going on than I knew in her mind..she was using anger to vacilitate that, and I was the scapegoat. So here I am, trying to figure what I did wrong, and although I did lots of wrong on my end and corrected most of them, she still saw me though mean-colored glasses. I was thought of as an [censored] too.
To summarize all this, her showing you everything is fine and dandy is validation to her that is doing the right thing...and maybe right now to her she is..but in time, something will surface that will more than likely blow your mind, and i have seen many BBers on here that will back all this up if you read them.
Im not saying im right or wrong, because when it comes to Rs and Ms, there isnt any. there is just what makes both parties happy in the end.
