Yup...not a good move Chicki. Do you want to save your M? I'm not being flip. It is a serious question. Some don't. They want to act like they do...but in the end...they don't. Do you?
If you do, I'm going to throw you out a new rule - the 48 hour rule. I followed it sometimes...but not always. Had I always followed it, I think I could be in a far different place right now. Instead I let my emotions get a hold on me and reacted to things I should not have.
There was a time when I found out that my W had started up her A again. I could feel her coming back to me at the time but I was hurt and I confronted it. That was the turning point. Everything went down hill fast from there. If I had taken 48 hours, talked to some people and calmed down...maybe I would have kept my mouth shut and maybe her A would have ran it's course and maybe she would have started to find her way back to me. ooops.
I'm not beating myself up because she is the one who was having the A in the first place, that was her choice and I think my reaction to it was more than fair. But it was not a choice that was going to save my M.
So do me a favor, if you are the type to speak your mind, shoot from the hip and wear your heart on your sleeve...do everything you can to stop. I wish I did more.
