You have fought valiantly. Give yourself a gold-medal.
He isn't worthy of you. He's a mess. Suzy home-maker can have him. I've seen this happen once before. The guy left his wife and married someone who waited on him hand and foot. His new wife is miserable now and calls the old wife to complain about the man. In that case, good riddance. I don't mean to be glib. I know this hurts like hell right now.
Or maybe he'll come out if his fog and crawl on his knees to come back to you. Then YOU get to decide what YOU want.
Either way you win. You drop the loser, or if he decides to become a real man, you decide if you want him back.
1. Take a deep breath.
2. Remember, God loves you very much.
3. You are a great mom, a terrific teacher and a beatiful woman.
4. See a lawyer. Protect your interests, but don't choose a litigious, combatitive strategy. Mediation with a lawyer backing you up is often the best approach.
5. Don't invite him over for dinner. Don't have sex with him anymore.
6. Don't call him at all, unless it's about your girls or business/financial matters. In fact consult a lawyer about what is and is not appropriate to talk about.
7. Go dark and do the LRT.
8. Take care of yourself.
9. Be strong. He's not going to destroy you by divorcing you. Don't give him that satisfaction.
