Thanks, Nomo. It just reinforces the theories that the WAS is going through so much more pain than we are, but we cant become a victim, but rather a validator and friend to support, the biggest one in fact! The LBS has the gamut of emotions to realize what happened, where the WAS runs away from the issues by blaming us, having As, and trying the live in their pretentious world of "I dont love you, need you, want you, or have anything to do you."
We, the LBS, have to show them that we can be happy with our lives by dealing with our conflicts, and not filing them away hoping we will forget they ever happened. like I wrote earlier, once the WAS runs out of people to blame their accusations of why their life sucks and their M sucks...only then can they fall back on themselves to "fix" whats broken.
They just dont understand right now why life is so peachy for us when they are in emotional turmoil. That is part of why they will lash out at you. DBing is primarily about working on you...but the inadvertant side-effects is it helps them to realize.."Hey, he/she is really a good person, attractive, and fun to be around." Gotta have that mystery back.
