Wife gone...Is there hope

[Nomopo]

C, that was a FANTASTIC post. Really. Lots of good stuff to keep in mind. The most powerful part for me:

If you, Strange, can show her the positive things about you and slide the negatives away, she will have no choice really but to look at you, not as a threat or the problem, but as someone who thinks she is better than how she feels right now, (and trust me....she probably feels real sh!tty about this)

Just awesome advice/insight (which we can use to our advantage in creating a strategy)!

The rest of it rang true as well. Really appreciate it!

Try asking a WAS shortly after a separation anything you can say positive about the LBS..they probably couldnt find many! They are flooded with negativity and need to process that before they can look at you with a good light.

My wife is so here. I doubt she sees anything good about me (other than she thinks I am a good father, and oddly she might resent that) or in our past.

Thanks again C!
Nomopo