Thats some good food for thought right there, from both of you, this is what makes this place so great
As regards to the sms I did actually reply to it saying "Call me when you want to talk about it"...Upto now, I am still waiting. I won't directly say that I wont talk via phone call etc..instead I will say I prefer to talk face to face.
I'll keep you guys posted on any devlopments..
Thanks for the input & good advice
Strange
PS..I get the feeling sometimes my W finds it confusing that I am so happy & jolly about all of this mess...I can 100% assure you that prior to reading & learning all I know right now...I would have argued it, fought it & Gone around to the OM & gave him a jolly good talking to:)