I understand what you are saying. But you are coming at it from the lense of a man who wants his marriage to work and sees a way of that happening. My H is very clear on what I want. He actually said that to me several times this week. He is sick of hearing it. He knows I don't want the divorce. I have said it, written it, and he has told me he knows. He knows what I would need from him to work on it. I sent him a list. I was told it was seen as me trying to control him. My needs are seen as controlling features. He can't or doesn't wish to meet my needs. He doesn't see a way out of it. He believes he could be happier with someone else some day because sees no way that I could meet his needs. I can't change that.
I appreciate what you are saying but I have done that. He just can't meet me there and I can't accept less. It is what it is.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. -Marcus Aurelius
