"but that's the way it should be." Disagree! Love requires an element of respect for each other, not just service. If we expect another to love us we must show love for ourselves as well. By constantly bending, putting other person first etc we are saying "I'm not that important" and they respond in kind! Certainly, an element of give and take is "the way it should be" but each person must have their own boundaries and the ability to say "what about me"! Respect and service, that is love, IMHO. I didn't do so well in the respecting myself and my needs department and therefore gave her permission to ignore my needs too. Bad, bad, bad!
