Ok i am confused on how to handle things these days.
My wife went out for a little while with her crazy girlfriends last night. I stayed upstairs to be close to the girls inscase one of them woke up or needed something.
So around midnight i go to bed upstairs, and she comes home around 1am. I wake up, and she lays down in the bed and starts talking. Says 'i had the weirdest night'. I ask her what was so weird about it.
She is wide awake, and in a good mood, and starts telling me about how, she was drinking and pretty drunk, and one of her girlfriends and a guy that she knew through another friend were talking, and suddenly this girl starts propositining my wife to have a 3some, and coming on strong. My wife said she laughed it off, and told her 'your drunk.' Of course this guy is all over it, but my wife said she was not into it, and when the bar closes they walk out to leave. Somehow then end up next to the elevators together, and the other girl and the guy move in and try to kiss her. She says she needs to go to the bathroom and leaves.
Now, i'm listening to this story, and granted some parts of it are really funny, but others are really awkward to me. Like how she tells me that there was this hot bartender that was checking her out and at one point in the night after drinking her friends tell her to go talk to him, so she walks over and says hi, and tells him he's cute and asks his age. He replies 22, and that he's flattered because my wife is hot. Well from the way she describes it my wife is embarressed that he is only 22 and laughs, and walks away.
Now, i don't want to hear about how my wife is playing the single crazy life. And i don't know why she thinks its okay to talk to me about it like I am her gay friend. It makes me crazy. I am very attracted to my wife, and she treats me like I don't do anything for her sexually. What is going on? We used to have a very good sex life, i know she was attracted to me, what the hell happened?
She also said, you should come out with us one night, and hang out with my 'crazy friends' they'll be all over you. I said 'that would be awkward'. She said we wouldn't go as 'boyfriend, or husband, or exhusband'. Again, i said 'that would be strange'.
Now she was still tipsy during all this, but I don't know how to handle this, part of me wanted to tell her I don't want to hear these things, and i'm not her gay buddy - I am her husband. Another part of me felt like her confiding in me was positive and that us sharing laughs and the fact that she wanted to tell me all of this was good. I tried to feel out if she was flirting with me in some strange way, but i was not getting any indications that she wanted me in anyway. I didn't let her see it, and the whole conversation was friendly and lighthearted, but it left me feeling a little hurt as i left to go downstairs to the basement.
I don't know what to do? Please give me some help..
