KS, my W did the same thing, and that is partially my fault. Because she had plans for her career and lots of activities, I always arranged my life around it. That was dumb! More and more she expected more cake but wasn't willing to give any in return. I was way to accepting of her, flaws and all. I listened endlessely to her problems and probably should have said "shut the f@ck up and do something about it!" once in a while. Honestly, I think what she needed was beyond the capabilities or any normal person. She wanted someone whose whole life surrounded her emotions and although I did so much for her I couldn't take care of all my responsibilities (a great deal of which were things to make her life easier) and hang on to her every word, every minute of the day. She wanted way too much. When I asked her to help me to be better at meeting her needs her reply was "If I need to help you then you just can't do it"! Nutty! My needs and stresses where never of interest to her in the last few years. As her stress level got higher and she took on more and more her ability to give was nil but her need to get was insatiable. I always thought "once she's done with school or this work project etc we'll be able to work on things" Guess what, those times never ended but became a way of life. But I carried on anyway trying to do better, trying to be loyal, trying to re-build our M, but I did so alone. I've honestly done everything I could and, as I've said before, I've never contemplated giving up, I was going to be the last man standing. So, this is a major shift for me, but one that had to happen. New beginnings...just part of life, I guess. I just wanted to add that Divorce Busting put me back on the road to a healthier me! In the past two years I have put a life together for myself that is happy and fulfilling,regardless of my W and her actions. I have always told my friends,when they say "How do get up every morning and face the day?", that "I have made myself a happy person"...DB has given me the map I needed to get through whatever comes my way now. I gave my W a new and better me, she doesn't want it, fair enough but I'm still a damn sight better than the man of a few years ago. So, that's it for the DB testimonial for today, where's my cheque Michelle!
