Letting Go of My WAW

[Nomopo]

I thought 5 on your thankful list was powerful. Good for you.

[SuperDad]

I thought 5 on your thankful list was powerful. Good for you.

It is not without self interest, if she isn't happy, the kids will suffer in the long run.

This is the same philosophy which drives me to be willing to be away from the kids more than I would like. If I feel that I have given up my goals and dreams to be there full time, eventually I will become bitter and they will suffer.

SD

[SuperDad]

Journaling:
Well, our 15th anniversary came and went without a word on the subject. I took kids to karate after work and W cooked dinner for the two of us afterwards! Just a normal dinner, kids watched History Channel while we ate without too much conversation.

The only communication from W today was to schedule a sitter for sat. so we can work on a separation agreement.

How far we've come.

Otherwise, I had a great day, lifted weights and went to spinning in the morning and swam and ran this evening. The day was filled with a strategy/status meeting which I attended since my boss and his boss are out of town. Lot's of good exposure to key people in the organization who can help me out with my goals.

SD

[Sad1]

6. I want my W to not have me as the excuse for her unhappiness. Really, I view a separation as the only hope for us to have a chance at a new R sometime in the future. She needs to be on her own for a while to understand who she is and also to appreciate all I have done for her over the years.

Hi SuperDad -- I know how hard it is to be seperated from the people that we love. I agree that this seperation might just be the thing that W needs. Allowing them to find out whether they want me in their lives, without me telling them that they do is the only choice I have. I don't believe that the contributions we made in our M's can be unappreciated as time apart goes by.
As someone wise once told me -- "There is one past, but many possible futures."-- and acting unselfishly can only seen as a positive influence toward the the future that I think we'd both like.
I'll see you here in "Seperated -- What ..." its been almost 6 mths for me so perhaps its also time I moved over.

[SuperDad]

Sad,
Thanks for the support and sorry things are not going as well as you had hoped.

"There is one past, but many possible futures."

Did I write that? It's one of my favorite lines. Usually at work, but applies here for sure!

SD

[saddadinkc]

SD you are doing well. I will keep you and your family in my prayers :).

T

[Sad1]

Ya, I got it from you, someone wise. Atleast it seemed like wisdom to me.

[SuperDad]

Thanks saddadinkc,
I need the prayers right now. Say one for my W too!
SD

[SuperDad]

Ya, I got it from you, someone wise. Atleast it seemed like wisdom to me.

We all have our moments of inspiration. Thanks for giving it back to me when I needed it!
Hope you are finding your "path with heart".

SD

[SuperDad]

Journaling:
What a day, W had made a plan to go to dinner with friend(s?). I invited a colleague who is in town from Europe over for dinner at our place and did not ask at all where she was going nor with whom. When I got home from work, she was rather stand-offish and spent most of the time in her room with the door closed (assumed IMing with OM). She intended to be gone before my friend arrived but she dallied and I got to introduce them! She left immediately.

In an interesting co-incidence, he is recently divorced from his WAW and W knows this.

We had a nice dinner and were sitting outside finishing our beers when she got back (just now). She opened the door and said hi and told me where she went (our favorite place on a lake with great sunset view). Mentioned how nice the sunset was. I smiled and said thats nice. She said good night and went right back to her room and her IMing.

Hard to be very optimistic, but as said yesterday, "There is one past and many possible futures." Mine will be a happy and fulfilled one!

SD