Whatis is absolutely correct...YOU need to grow and change for the better...but, you put him above yourself...WRONG!!!!!!!!!!! YOU COME FIRST...not him.
Driving at all hours of the night is stalking him...you notice, he's not checking out where you are...he knows, you are waiting for him with arms out open. Mix it up...put up your boundaries...don't be anxious for him to return...plan your life. He has had plenty of time to decide by now...he is stalling. What guy wouldn't want two women to love...it boosts his ego. Do a 180 and try to ignore him...don't react to the crumbs he throws at you...in otherwords, let him beg to win YOU back, not the other way around...he had the affair, not you...get your pride and self-esteem back, Tam, then, he'll be on bended knees. You are making this too easy for him to keep the status quo...
