Just got back from building the 4th sand castle this week. My sitch is really strange. My W does not want a divorce (as least not yet). She wants us to be "room mates" We don't fight. She does have her moods. I just don't know what to make of it. I have no idea what I will be coming home to. I have sent her about 2 pictures a day of my son building a castle, playing in a stream Ect. No text just pictures. I know the yard looks like S@it by now because i didn't cut the lawn before I left. I am not looking forward to playing the DB game when I get home.
"I am researching attnys to start the separation so that her bills for her and OM won't be my responsibility"My W makes more money than me so the way I am looking at it is I'm spending her money right now
Catch ya later Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Buddha said"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who ends up getting burned".
I am going to copy this saying. I've been listening to a Divorce Care tape that talks about anger.....anger is normal; it's what you do with it that matters. Buddha is right!
Husband, too bad you have to go back to reality so soon. I'm sure the week has gone by too fast. Be calm and cool!! Don't have expectations (good or bad) about your return home. Just be YOU!
Today we did the usual but built the Best sand castle yet. Had lunch on the beach let my son drive back and forth a few times then did some bodacious 4 wheeling on some goat trails. Gave the jeep a good workout. We came to this turn that was washed out and had no place to go. The trail just fit the jeep. Had to back up a few feet and then I said “what the hell” and just went over the side. Kind of bottomed out a little but I punched it and made it over the wall to the next trail. My son told me “I just want to say I love you and if we make it out, this is the best ride I have ever been on. Well with a little spinning here and a little sliding there WE MADE IT. When we got out my son told me he was not worried because no mater what problems we have we always seem to make it. If he only knew. So anyway it’s pizzas and cream soda’s (coronas for me) a good movie. (Night in the museum). And video games till the cows come home.
I’ll check in later
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Well it’s my last day in la la land. My son and I filled a container with memories. I had him write a note to him self about the fun we had and I wrote a letter to my son. It basically said “I want you to know I love you so much. I don’t know what this next year will bring but what ever happens you will always be in my heart and my best friend. Thank for giving me the best week in my life so far. I hope we will have many more. Your dad” We also put in a couple of cans of silly string. (We had fights with these). Some of his army men. A 2007 dollar coin and some glow sticks. I taped it up really well in a plastic container and we are going to bury it in the sand dunes. We will draw a map to it and when we get home I will frame the map and hang it on the wall in his bed room. Hopefully next year we can take the map and find OUR treasure again. Gota go now I’ll log in when we get back. Oh yea there is a car in front of our room with just married written on the window. Should I warn these people? LOL
Husband
P.S W never called last night and I didn't call her. First time in 16 years we have not spoken to each other in 24 hours.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Container of memories....what a heart warming idea! Hope the reception at home is also heart warming, but as I said before be careful of your expectations.
well i'm headed back home. let the DBing begin. even though I had a great time with my son this week, I still have sad feeling about where my marriage is going. My heart still hurts.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Ok everyone I get home the W is a little distant. But I keep the Positive attitude. First thing I did was take my son’s and my dirty clothes and put them I the washer. My W tells me she is making her fabulous spaghetti for dinner and is going to have her mom come over to look at the pictures of our vacation. During dinner there was nice conversation. (Her mom loves me she has no idea what her daughter has done). Let me go back in time a little. Before I found out about the OM. My W was not happy. She was complaining about this and that. One thing she said was the kitchen needed painting. So I painted the entire kitchen and hall way. We had our wedding pictures in the hall way. She told me to just leave those pictures down because she wanted to do something different there. Well after everything was painted I went one step further and tiled around the sink and stove. This was about 3 months ago and the wall was still blank when I left. Tonight I turned down the hall and noticed our wedding pictures are back up. She also hung up her collage diploma that had never found a home. (She was out of work for 3 years so went back to school while I supported the family. Anyway the pictures are back up. Also I asked her if she wanted to go with me to put flowers on our father’s graves. (We have never done this) she said sure. I complimented her on the pictures said the wall looks great. Later my daughter called and needed a ride home. I just drove over 300 miles but my wife wanted me to go pick her up. Ok so On the way home I asked my daughter if mom seemed annoyed with the gifts. She said no not annoyed she told me that “Dad was probably checking up on me” My daughter then said I don’t know why she would say that. I slipped and said quietly she has her reasons. W left to take her Mom home in a good mood. I check in tomorrow to give ya all an update.
Well I guess I’m back in the game
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Husband, good sign having wedding pictures back up! Remember baby steps!!!
I would be careful about asking your children questions about their mom. It could come back to haunt you....and it's not fair to put the children in that position. (I slip now and then myself.....especially just asking if D16 has talked to her dad)
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! I bet you get the prize for Father of the Year after this past week's adventure!
