Hi Violets I am sorry that you have found yorself in this situation. Something that has helped me is to realize I can't change my husband - I can only do what I can for me. I was a mess at first. I couldn't believe this was my life. I started to read Michelle's books and I came here when I needed to vent - and it really helps. The best thing I've done is to get a life for myself and to try to count what blessings I could find - even if it was just to say - I can walk and feel the sunshine on my face. When I was anticipating a bad day ( like Valentine's day or my birthday )I would do what I could to plan a good day for myself and my daughter. If H wanted to join in great - if not I wasn;t going to let him ruin it - This attitude was not always easy - its been very very hard - but it has helped me be a stronger person - and while I steer my way thru this crap I've been dealt with - I know that whatever happens I can rely on myself
I will keep you in my thoughts - try to keep it together - FOR YOU. Love, HM
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me - 47 H - 50 /49 when bomb happened Daughter 17 years old married 21 years together 26 years Bomb August 06 H still at home 'I love you but not in love with you'
