S2H,

I think as long as you are both on the same page regarding the marriage being done, and you want to date and are ready for it, then it's okay.

The part that I'd think about is you said something to the effect of it meant breaking your vows. If you feel that you'd be breaking your vows, then I guess, I'd say think about it some more. To me, my vows are done and the marriage is done. I'm not ready yet (but maybe will be soon) but I don't think I'd date if I felt it would be breaking the vows. The paperwork of a divorce is going to take some time, but H has decided that is what he wants, and so really, to me, we're already divorced, it's just the formality of it that needs completion.

Dana

Last edited by galing; 06/14/07 07:03 PM.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. -Marcus Aurelius

Me: 32 XH: 33
M: 8 years
Affair discovered: 06/2006
rediscovered: 11/2006
Separation: 04/2007
Divorced: 10/09/07