I'm not convinced that H never loved you. I believe that H got caught up in temptation...as anyone can...and he's just struggling with his own ability to make himself happy. I do not believe that he really thinks the OW is a better choice, or that you are just the "easier" option.
This is just going to take time.
You know how long I had to wait. And yes, I did let H know how I felt about his contact with OW. I did not interrogate him or give him ultimatums or whatever. I just asked him what he thought was appropriate...he knew it probably was not, and I also said that my perfect scenerio would be no contact between them at all and that we could talk about anything between us. It took probably 5 months before he erased her off his phone and I'm 99% sure they have not had any contact since the beginning of Feb.
I know your H knows you want him to have nothing to do with her, so it may just be redundant to bring it up. So what your plan is, seems good to me.
Very glad to hear about your GALing plans. You know I've slacked off on that myself. it's definitely easy to just plop right back into the M routines. We don't have to go GALing crazy, but just keep a little of what we learned during the sitch a part of us, because that is the reason our WAS changed their minds. Because we were becoming the person we were when they met us...an individual person who took care of themselves and didn't lean on someone for their happiness.. and now we're even better because we've received such a learning experience thru the sitch to better our M. So definitely don't lose hold of the Nikki you became.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
