Not sure if you have been or not, but at this stage of the game it will probably do you good to count on her driving this train until she explicitly indicates or says otherwise. I've been in the position where you look for any and every little thing as a sign that this is not the case, or that she's having second thoughts. One of the key parts of detaching is not having expectations (as you already know) - and that includes not expecting her to change her mind from where it's at right now. I know that sucks though.
Kev
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius
"God alone decides the contest; but we must put our shoulders to the wheel." -Adm. D.G. Farragut
Kevin-38; XW-36 M-2.5, together 4 Bomb-1/6/07; D-6/27/07
