What % of our WAS have someone else?

[Ophelia]

My H has OW, though he doesn't consider her to be an OW because he didn't start dating her until after he'd moved out. She's just his girlfriend, and a sign that he's "moving on" with his life.

I'm quite confident that he wasn't with anyone else before he moved out. I suspect that part of him moving out was that he wanted to hop into bed with someone else, (lacklustre sex life was one of our issues), but couldn't bring himself to do it while we were still technically together and living under the same roof.

As for my situation, I don't know what to think and know I can't let it control me in any way. I can't control what my wife does or does not do. I can only trust that she does the "right" thing. If having an EA/PA means she finds out our relationship and marriage are more important then who am I to argue with that? Sure it would be hard to deal with but then again the flip side is she would be and want to be with me in a loving, respectful and nuturing relationship.

I think I'll adopt that line of thinking. Putting a positive spin on my H having a R with OW seems kind of crazy, but if it helps save my sanity a bit, then I'm all for it!