sorry hon)))) first of all, do NOT contact her, ever. It is just bound to hurt you and there is no reason she'd be truthful to you in any way, most likely if she still wants something w/your H she's just going to say things to separate the two of you.
Discuss w/your H the fact that contact w/her must be cut off completly. Cant' he transfer to another office or find a way to distance himself from her?
Then I started feeling angry at not hearing what I thought I deserved to hear (like thanks or sorry) ============== About this, we've got endless thread about that, we LBS had put up w/so much and forgiven so much we expect the WAS to beg our forgiveness, and 9 out of 10 the LBS want to bury that part of their lives and never talk about it, thus the conflict. I posted here eons ago about how when we take our Ss back, we must forgive them w/ grace, without expecting much back, maybe in the long run they may or may not say what we want to hear. But grace is something we receive from God when we dont' deserve it, same thing with our WAS, we give them grace/forgiveness when they might not deserve it, and we must leave it at that.
About having a child, that's another big issue. When you guys got married, did you agree on having more than one child or not? And honestly, now it is not the best time for another kid, you guys are still not out of the woods and a child right now would put more pressure in your lives. I know having our 2nd child threw my H into his first out of 2 MLC. Be patient hon.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
