Hi ROOT- I am not sure if my H is having an A or not. I guess at this point it doesn't really matter because he obviously does not want to be with me. If he is having an A, I will survive. My first H married the OW and had 4 more kids with her. If I can survive that...
I have a lot to focus on other than him. I need to get through the next month and I think I will be in a much better place after that. I will be in the new house and his b-day, our anniversary will have passed. Not sure how to handle those ya know...card, gift, text message, nothing??? I need to figure out what to do with my H's stuff when I move as well...do I move it with me, or do I leave it here for him to come and get? I don't know. I am thinking I should take it with me but leave it in boxes.
I understand what you are saying about not getting involved with anyone. In ways, it would be nice to help dull the pain, but I know I need to work through this and it wouldn't be fair to anyone to get involved with me until I have healed. Now, in the likely event that I do get a D, I would have no problem waiting to date until my kids are out of the house but, my kids are with the father almost 50% of the time plus I know they will be spending more and more time with their friends. I don't want to jump the gun, but I am not sure how realistic it is for me to put my needs on hold for years when I will have so much time by myself.
I'm going to my H's office today. I need to be strong but today I just feel indifferent.
