No kidding on the LL, I was so fortunately that in the middle of all this crap my wife actually filled out the questionaire in the back of the LL book. I had written in the table of contents what I thought her LL was based on reading the book (I had no clue about that stuff before reading it) and I was happy that what I thought was her LL (acts of service) was correct from how she answered the questions. Problem was I'd been trying to show her love in my LL, physical affection, which is her lowest LL and she'd been trying to show me love in her LL, acts of service, which I couldn't care less about. The LL stuff ought to be taught in schools, along with DBin' and Marriage Fitness.
ST, It is good that your H mentioned his need for you to lay off the work after 11pm instead of just keeping it in and being resentful. I know I was shocked to have my wife tell me last weekend "do you know how many times I cried myself to sleep while you played computer games..." and yet I don't ever remember her telling me to stop playing and come spend time with her, or come to bed and lay with me and talk, she might have gotten angry and yelled at me in frustration which I would have just gotten defensive about and never listened or asked what the "real" issue was. So, a positive thing, even if it cuts your activities short.
