Do they ever really come back?

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Yes, sometimes they come back. But as they say, be careful what you wish for. It is not always peaches and cream. Not to say that it cannot be, but it takes two and it takes commitment.

My H came back but didn't make any effort or commitment so he has deteriorated to the same state he was in when he left in the first place. No communication, out practically every night, etc. All I asked when he returned was that he communicated his feelings and told me what he was feeling so that I could be sure I was what he wanted in a wife and mother and would not get the bomb dropped again. He did none of that. Therefore I only hear complaints when he is screaming mad at me. Now I think he is going to do exactly what I predicted, drop the bomb again.

But it doesn't have to be like that. Learn from others and make it the best you can. Good luck!