Stubborn, I'm glad you're starting to feel better. It's hard enough to deal with all this crap when you are healthy! It feels almost impossible when you're ill. I do hope that this breakdown in the A will be a point of recovery for your R. I know it's hard to let yourself feel hopeful but you never know what's around the next corner, it may be something good! Here's to hoping.
report: catching up on posts today as the computer is mine and I feel human. I finally did something fun the other day and realized I have, on one level, been my worst enemy lately by not getting out more. Being sick didn't help.
Whatsis, in reading your posts I was most struck by the mention of fighting the spouse on "her terms" or what she was best at. I think I too have been doing that.
Went to all school picnic last evening with happily little family. At one point spouse says "just so you know OW won't be here. I thought you might feel better knowing that". Taken aback though I was I had to admit it did make me feel more at ease (although my strategy is to smite her by looking blissful and friendly whenever I see her!!!) I thanked spouse for telling me and admitted it did help and I appreciated it. Of course part of me wanted to scream "who f-ing cares what that c*I&% does and may she rot in hell"...but breathe, breathe, breathe. Spouse finally dragged us away and home around kids bedtime. I was actually enjoying myself. Imagine!
I suspect spouse has plans tonight but I'm thinking of asking her to dinner anyway. As she left for work today she hugged DD and told her she loved her. Then she came down the narrow hall toward me so I just put my arms out, she hugged me, I slipped in an ILY and she said ILY too. Where did my life go?
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
spouse is off to "watch a movie" with OW. (euphemism for ????)
spouse sent me an email telling me her plans and she would have told me sooner but she was going back and forth...I told her I go back and forth too and I wonder what tears at her the most. She replied that it all tears at her the most. Nothing like facing your problems is there? And that was NOTHING like facing her problems. I just keep trying to call her bluff...she came out into the yard to tell me she was leaving and said "I'll see you later" and I asked "what does that mean?" Really, does it mean when I return from Bolivia, after I fininsh my taxes, WTF? When exactly is later?(none of the last part out loud mind you)
well I'll see you all later...jeeze
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
Stubborn, I've started round three of the "stupidest thing your S ever said about the A" follies. You love this, get in on it. It's in the "Fun" section. Don't miss out! BTW WTF is in Bolivia anyway?
Stubborn, you still in Bolivia? I've started a "Stupidest things I've ever said about the A" thread. MRHIGHSPEED has been declared the unofficial winner, he makes the rest of us look like rank amateurs. I hope you're well and we hear from you soon.
hey dude! I'll have to check that out. I know I really inspired it. Been on the run, trying to look busy and not be home too much. Went to mnts, had a class, just slowing down. No big changes. Some communication but it always ends with "I can't talk about it"...whatever that means. I get really down and then things perk up. They are just about as bad as I think they are, meaning, if I can stay up they are ok. Beach vacation coming 7/1, even extended a day by spouse. After that a cruise for me, another part of my "don't be home too much" plan. So far so good.
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
