Believe it or not I have read through your story a couple of times as there are so many lessons for all of us. I admire you for your support of others here and just want a little advice.
4 days ago My W admitted to having an A for the last 6 months , I have been on the DBing wagon for about 4 1/2 months of that. W never left home but was to leave the day after she admitted the A. It is over , OM dumped her for OW. At this stage her bag is still packed but she has said she will not leave.
I think she is staying out of some sense of duty or Guilt.
She told me she needs to like the person in the mirror again before she can do anything else.
She couldnt figure out why I had been so calm and said she would have felt better if I had yelled and called her names.
In reality I just sucked up my feelings and decided I did not need to add to her pain. I said little other than I admired her strength and honesty. She answered all the questions I had with an honesty I had not seen for a long time.
So here we are with just fragments of our R. I have read too much and I need to focus on what next.
There is much more work to do now but I think more of the same , ie Time and space will be the right path for now.
