Mate, don't worry too much about those sad periods, I have had many of them.
You are heading in the right direction by detaching. I have read your sitch, and I think the more you try (detaching, not worrying about W etc), the better it will get.
Like you said, once you give them the space and freedom that they initially requested, they will think a whole lot clearer about everything that they are doing.
Don't rush into things when it looks like things are going well. The day that W intitiates possibly coming back into the R will be the day I act on it.
But just stay lovingly detached, or lovingly dark, and keep doing the things that make you happy. And just be the wonderful person that you are. It takes time, so use this time to enjoy your new found freedom.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
