The answer to your question is YES! Look in the Success Stories threads.
Keep posting, you will gain valuable insight and will have fabulous resources here to help you. We share our experiences as we feel they apply.
The more detail you can share about you and your H in regard to your relationship the better. Whatever you feel comfortable with.
One of the basics for you to apply yourself to is; educate yourself. Learn all you can about affairs, how they develop, how they survive and how they disappear. As with anything else we don't understand, it just makes sense to learn about it before we develop an offense to correct the behavior.
The offense will challenge you, but the results will astound you if you see it through. Use this site to journal your thoughts, your interactions and your emotions. We've been where you are and you will find compassion and support here.
If your divorce is pending, this site will assit and your H in dealing with issues related to your kids. http://www.uptoparents.org It is a wonderful guide on what to do and how to do it. Your kids are being thrust into a situation they can't comprehend. They will need the mutual support of both parents.
Enough for now, keep posting and you will get a response.
