I am so sorry to hear this, it really seemed like you were getting somewhere with her. Just goes to show she really is stubborn. Stubborness is a trait I have suffered with myself in the past it makes you want to do ANYTHING to prove the other person isn't right. No matter what krap you bring on yourself in the process. So I would be careful of being too outright oppositional with her. My dad is a stubborn old bugger too, and the only way with him is to come alongside - so to speak - and gently nudge him round in the direction you want him to go.
Maybe it's too late for all that.
Yeah, Fran, unfortunately it probably is. But I do appreciate your note. It has kind've gnawed at the back of my brain, tho, that she may be pulling a "Saddam" here, and acting like she has WMDs, everything thinks she has WMDs, she doesn't deny having WMDs, and she's willing to go to war over WMDs that she doesn't even have.
In other words, she's had a lighter PA than it appears -- and specifically, did more groping in the CAR portion of yesterday's escapades than she did at that house, where who's to say that the kid's mother wasn't actually at home? . . . (bear with me here -- WILD CONSPIRACY THEORY FOLLOWS).... but is willing to let everything think what they want to think, in order to blow up the marriage???
Could it be???
I'm not saying she wasn't in an EA -- she clearly was.
I'm not saying she didn't have a PA -- she at least did kissing, groping and probably oral in the car one of those times.
I'm saying, what if she cut that mostly out 2 weeks ago, and then was in the process of trying to "manage" it for the remainder (which we all know doesn't work), while she "cake-ate" and took me for a ride, and then when I called her on it, is willing to let people think what they want to think in order to get out of her unhappy (to her) marriage, so she can go chase young guys and have her little mid-life crisis???
Yeah, didn't think so either. Just noodlin' out loud.
