It sounds to me as if OM is pulling out all the stops, probably playing major emotional games with MrsChoc, and she is allowing herself to be drug along. It would have been nice to hear what she and OM were talking about in the car and at his house wouldn't it? I could be really wrong, but I'll bet it was a lot of desperate "I love you"'s and "we are right for each other" and him reminding her of all the good times they have had together. Unfortunately, she still has a lot of chemicals running through her that his words are resonating with.
The good thing about that scenario though is that at some point her mind will hit on the comparison. Desperate shrimp who lives with his parents versus alpha male who is strongly fighting for his family. I'm willing to bet that she will make the right choice. The only question is, will you be willing to "take her back" at this point. I think many others have had to deal with similar situations and have been able to piece it back together. No one here would fault you if you didn't want her back, but I do think, even now, even with all that has happened, that there could be a chance for you two.
But, of course, you're the boss
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
