Your W sounds like my H. At first he refused to see a C. He thought that they wouldn't be able to do anything to help. I ended up convincing him to come with me to a few sessions. She didn't help. He was convinced that there would be no reason to share "our issues" with someone. And he had the "It's none of their business mentality."
I ended up going to C alone, and working on me instead.
Were things going well for the two of you as Jack as asked? I just wonder.
Maybe boundaries are necessary? Why is "friend" forwarding you this e-mail to you?
I agree most OP are turds with low self esteem or something to mess with married spouses.
How did your W react to your telling her to basically move out?
Sorry for so many questions.
But, I do think that you need to do what is best for you. If this is what you really want...after sleeping on it, mulling it over. Do what's best for you. I would definitely apply the 24 hour rule to it though.
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