One thing that came up more than ones in our M was BB saying, "why don't men just get over want sex" like it was something a man could turn off or on with a switch.
Another female friend said once a man reaches 60/retirement age, there ought to be some marital contract clause, that sex should be over.
Does telling a W how lonely, rejected a man feels, ever penetrate those anti-sexual attitudes?
And here I am, last night trying to stir the good feelings that might lead to a sexual encounter. I got BB clothes off, did the kissing, did the body caressing, put my leg on her leg, then got the "You don't really want to do anything, do you? So I said yes I do.
Back and forth a few times but it looked like I would have to be the heavy so I said I needed a hand job, only BB thought that was icky. I placed her hand on my groin a couple of times and took care of myself. Then proceeded to rub her back for 10 minuets.
??The occasion??>Duplicating a previous event. It used to be when BB wanted something, she acted sexy. She wanted a TV for the bedroom. I got a deal on one and ran the cable to connect the TV to the Cable system. This time there wasn't any sexy bait thrown my way.
Why the HJ? I did that for me. I got tired of backing down, not wanting to make her uncomfortable.
Did I feel rejected, Yes, some. Rejection or being wanted wasn't the main goal. An alterative goal was for me to go for something and not back down. It is one reason I changed my screen name to Do It Yourself, meaning I have to do it myself, I can’t rely on books or someone else.
I could say how rejected I felt. I don't think I personally would have gotten anywhere, that is till I was about to pack my bags and leave.
I am calm, straight faced, and in a matter of fact mood, not happy, not sad with the results of this M, which is more like a science project day by day.
So, the question is for the women that woke up and saw that it is more about being wanted than getting off. What might work?
