My wife and I are on the verge of divorce. She has made it clear that she is done. That she has no will left to be my wife. We would have been married 7 yrs this August and have a 1 1/2 yr old daughter. We have been going to marriage couseling for the last couple months. First together and now separate. Everyone including my wife is telling me to let her go that I deserve better. We have been together for 11 yrs I can’t just let her go. She wants to sell our house and get her own place. I don’t know what to do anymore. I have to move on and let her go. I can’t force someone to love me. I would do anything to save this marriage, but I know she is done. Maybe having her get her own place and living on her own for a while will change things. I never would have wanted to have a child with her if the life long commitment was not there. I feel like I have been used and taken advantage of. I included a letter I sent to her a week ago that expressed my feelings in response to a email she sent me. One other note, which I feel bares a lot of the stress to this situation is my wife just opened up a new business a few months ago as has felt overwhelmed ever since. When we first decided to start this business it was for our families future. Now I feel like she is doing it all for herself.

Here's the latest email I received from my wife.

Hope you are o.k. Sorry if I was harsh - all very emotional for both of us. You've really been trying, I know. I don't question your devotion, just have my stuff to deal with and years of frustrations, disconnect and miscommunication. You can't rebuild when it gets broken beyond repair.

I will always love you for Sabrina, but am not capable of this. You deserve better.

I'm sorry.

Here's the letter I responded to her with:

I'm sorry I've been so upset. Yes, I'm an emotional person and I am in a lot of pain. It's been hard to accept that you don't want to be my wife any more. You need to stop thinking about yourself for once and realize the position you put me in. These feelings aren't going to go away over night. I have accepted the fact that I have lost the love of my life, but it does not make it any easier. I know you want me to just put aside my feelings for now and put on my gameface so we can get the house ready to sell and get you your new condo and let u get on with your new life. But, unfortunately, I haven't been able to so please stop being so cruel and throwing the fact that I am emotional in my face. It's not a bad thing and someday you will wish you had it back. I always new you had a rough childhood, but I never thought it would come back to bite me the way it has. I was always your number one cheerleader as you put it. I always supported you and your career. I accepted the fact that I was never going to come before your career. You have always had something to prove to the world and more importantly yourself. I guess it's true what they say "that you can't love someone if you don't love yourself". I'm going to need time. I wish I would have paid attention to the signs more. I thought we were just under stress with all the things we took on. I wish you would have stood up for yourself and told me how you felt before we took on all these properties and all our financial debt. We both feel trapped because we are. I thought we would always be together and work through anything. When I said my vows, "For better and for worse..." they meant something to me. I feel so stupid, so nieve. So manipulated and used. I don't know how anyone could do this to another human being. To have a child with me. To go through that whole bonding experience together less then 2 yrs ago and now to want to end it all. I feel like you have been setting me up for along time. You definitely have playing the victim role down. I'm not sure if you we're just weak and didn't want to face these issues or you have been planning to leave me for a long time. I feel duped about the new business move. I feel you used me so you could do your training and get your office set up. I'm still not sure what happened at your condo.. I don't think your telling me the truth. No matter what the reason you had no right to cheat on me. The fact that I didn't tell you about the bachelor party strip club thing did not give you the right to disrepect our wedding vows. Afterall, it was 7 yrs ago. If you think it did then your more screwed up then I thought. No matter how you look at it would I did was not immoral. Stupid maybe. Disreseptful? but not immoral. You can take that up with the boss up stairs someday. I'm not sure if you have been seeing anyone else. Just the thought of you kissing some other man rips my heart out. Hopefully, someday you will deal with your issues before you break some other guys heart or even our daughters. I'm not sure what you meant by XXX being such a good friend. Have you kissed him? have you slept with him? Have you been confiding in eachother. Swapping horrible marriage stories. Comiserating with eachother. Only God and your conscience knows. You will have to live with that. I hope whatever you have lined up was worth it. Even if you have been confiding in someone else. It's emotional cheating. I never cheated on you and never would. You have really hurt me and I because of you it's going to be a long time before I will be able to trust and love someone again. I hope this is truly what you want. I ultimately want you to be happy and I thought I was going to be the one to do it. Like I've heard a thousand times over the last couple months "If you love something enough let it go if it doesnt come back then it was never yours to begin with". Anyway, I know I'm rambling. Mock me all you want. I know how weak and pathetic I seem to you. That dam emotional side coming out again. Hopefully, some day I will be able to forgive you for all this pain so we can be friends. I just needed to get this stuff off my chest. Hopefully, you will be able to as well. Sorry I wasn't your answer. I hope someday you find what your looking for. Anyways, thanks for all the memories, thanks for our daughter, and thanks for the dance.

thanks for taking the time to read this. Any advice would be appreciated. \:\)