She went to one counseling session with me, decided she didn't like the counselor and refused to return. She goes to a counselor on her own and a women's group who have her believing that she has been abused sexually, emotionally and verbally. I have been labeled controlling and manipulative.
Although she goes to counseling herself, when I inquire about finding a MC she likes, she replies that you don't need someone else to tell you what to do, that it doesn't help. When I ask why she goes alone then, she gets very angry and defensive.
She will not let affection return to our relationship. I now understand why. She is holding out in the hopes that this guy who who was merely sport-@#$%ing her actually loves her. She doesn't want to give of herself to me again in case he comes running back to her arms!
I really don't understand it. He's a real turd of a human being.
She said in her e-mail that she was sorry she hurt him. She didn't - I did. In actuality, he hurt her and she doesn't even see it.
When someone is that genuinely delusional, how in the hell can you recover from anything???
Here's the actual text of her e-mail That he forwarded to me:
Hello Brian, I would really like to talk to you, I miss you, wonder if you feel the same, having a real hard time and need a friend. I am afraid to keep calling you because it makes me feel bad when you don't answer. I know I deserve it cause I have hurt you. I am truely sorry, can't say much more. only I will never hurt you again. Miss you, Suzy
Makes me ill...
Argue your limitations and sure enough, they are yours. - Richard Bach
